Mamas on Bedrest: Busting Bedrest Blues

March 23rd, 2015

Hello Mamas!

If you missed our most recent tele seminar, you really missed a treat! “Former” Mama on Bedrest Parijat Deshpande moderated a panel discussion between Me, Angela Davids (Owner of KeepEmCookin.com) and herself. We not only had a great time together, we shared some great information on Busting Bedrest Blues. I know that I learned a lot and added some great tips and techniques I’ll use when working with mamas. There were some technical difficulties with the original recording, but after some editing, here it is. Enjoy!

 

Mamas on Bedrest: Join us for Bust Out of Your Bedrest Blues!

March 16th, 2015

Hello Mamas!!

Bedrest Coach Darline Turner

Bedrest Coach Darline Turner

Great News! “Former” Mama on Bedrest Parijat Deshpande and I are teaming up to bring you this month’s tele seminar, Bust Out of Your Bedrest Blues. As some of you may recall, Parijat is a clinical psychologist who specializes in dealing with the stress of infertility, high risk pregnancy, prematurity and family stress. A few weeks ago, she graciously joined me for an interview to describe her method for helping mamas deal with stress around high risk pregnancy and bed rest. Well, we both had tele seminars scheduled to address tips and techniques for dealing with Bedrest Blues. When we realized that we were both going to be talking about the same thing, we decided to come together and have one big open conversation.

Parijat Deshpande

Clinical psychologist, Health and Wellness Coach and “Former Mama on Bedrest” Parijat Deshpande

 

 

So Mamas, join us for a frank and informative discussion and Bust out of Your Bedrest Blues!!

NOTE: This seminar will serve as the Third Thursday Teleseminar.  The live tele seminar will be on Wednesday, March 18th, 2pm ET, 1pm CT and 11am PT. Click here to register and to receive call in information.

For those of you unable to attend the live tele seminar on Wednesday, March 18, 2015, the recorded tele seminar will be available on Thursday, March 19th. If you have a question and cannot attend the live tele seminar, or don’t want to submit your question live, feel free to submit your question to info@mamasonbedrest.com and Parijat and I will answer your question during the call.

This is a unique opportunity to have two experts at your service to answer your questions about bed rest and the stress associated with bed rest. Don’t miss out! Submit your questions and join us on Wednesday, March 18, 2015, 2pm ET, 1pm CT and 11 PT.

Mamas on Bedrest: You Are Perfect!

March 9th, 2015
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My daughter 1 day old in NICU.

I never get tired of looking at babies.

Babies of all sorts are the most miraculous creatures to me, but of course, my favorites are human babies. Whenever I look at a newborn, look at the tiny fingers and toes all perfectly formed, the fingernails, eyelashes, tiny little nostrils…all I see is perfection. It never ceases to amaze me that this tiny little being has all that it needs to inhabit this earth for the next several decades, and in the case of little girl babies, to create other human beings!

Mamas, let’s not forget that we all started out as “little girl babies” and as such, we too have everything that we need to create a little life within us and to bring that life forth. It breaks my heart when I hear Mamas on Bedrest, time and time again, disparage their bodies. I know that having a pregnancy complication is scary. I know all too well how disappointing it is to have all your pregnancy plans, hopes and dreams shattered when the Bedrest prescription is issued. Yet, when I witness women’s discontent and disappointment with statements such as,

“My body is broken”

“My Body has let me (and my husband, baby and family) down.”

“I feel like such a failure”

“I’m less than” or “Not as much of a woman as other women I know”

I’m deeply saddened. Mamas, bed rest or not, you are perfect!

My kids just days after the birth of my son.

My kids just days after the birth of my son.

Mamas, It’s time we reclaim our “divine feminine”. Our culture would like us to believe that our value is in our appearance, in establishing perfect careers, creating perfect families and bringing forth our children via transcendent, medication and complication fee vaginal births. While I am sure that we all strive to look and be our best, and we’d all love to have uncomplicated, spontaneous vaginal births, sometimes life happens. Sometimes life is just downright messy. But does that make it any less good? And because we are not exactly like everyone else, does that really make us less than?? Heck, it takes a lot of strength and fortitude to endure week after week of bed rest and I know plenty of women who would cave. You are stronger than you realize. Remember that! Besides, would you disparage and chastise a diabetic for being diabetic, for not being able to metabolize and utilize sugars?? Do you feel that a diabetic is somehow broken, less than? What about people with heart disease? Autoimmune diseases? Each and everyone of us is on a journey and comparing one person’s journey to another typically results in disappointment and feelings of inadequacy. I say, just don’t do it!

Mamas, I want to invite you to take a deep breath, let it out, and take this in: There is nothing wrong with you. That’s right, I’m saying it, “THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU, YOU ARE PERFECT!!!” Your body has a different way of reacting to THIS PREGNANCY. It needs some assistance and for now, the treatments that your obstetrician is providing, including bed rest is that assistance. You may never have pregnancy complications ever again or you may be prescribed bed rest with each of your pregnancies. That is your “normal”. That is your perfection! No it isn’t like the vast majority. But why not be an original?? No it isn’t fun. But that doesn’t make you wrong, or broken or somehow less than other women. You are you, perfect in every way!!

The elder women in my family always say, “God doesn’t give you more than you can handle, and that the reason you have trials is so that you can overcome and bless someone else”. So mamas, as you are on bed rest, preparing for your beautiful bundle of joy, consider reframing this experience. Instead of disparaging yourself and seeing all the negatives, ask yourself, “How can I use this experience in later life for good?” Believe me, it’s a game changer. Of that I know firsthand.

So what did you come up with? What positives could come from this experience? Share those in the comments section below. Just can’t get there? Still feeling overwhelmed? Lost? Let’s talk about it in a free 3o minute Bedrest Breakthrough session! Simply e-mail info@mamasonbedrest.com and we’ll get you scheduled