Effective communication is important in all aspects of life, but it is critical for women on bed rest and those caring for them. As so vividly illustrated by former Mama on Bedrest Rebecca Buscemi, Mamas on Bedrest often “hide” their true feelings and that can have catastrophic consequences! Mamas, ask for what you really need! You’re not being a bother and you’re not whining. It’s really okay to say that you feel completely out of control and don’t know how to handle those feelings.
Likewise, providers have to ask leading questions, questions that will require more than a “yes” or “no” answer. It’s not enough to ask, “Is everything okay?” Ask, “How are you and your partner faring?” Ask, “Who is taking care of your children and how is that going?” Ask, “Are you crying at all during the day?” These probing questions will yield much more pertinent information and enable providers to intervene and help Mamas on Bedrest should assistance be required.
In this podcast, we hear from former Mama on Bedrest, Rebecca Buscemi. Rebecca has a remarkable story of incidental injury that lead to 10 weeks of bed rest, depression, manic spending, bankruptcy and now a successful business. Rebecca shares with us her “cover ups” and how deeply she hurt while on bed rest and yet no one suspected and she never divulged the truth. She shares the pain of depression so deep that she has no recollection of the early months of her daughter’s life. Her pain and “spending to soothe” resulted in bankruptcy for her family and $47,000 in debt that extended to her parents. Rebecca pulled herself back from the brink, started a business and now, nearly 5 years later, is once again financially solvent.
2013 is proving to be a great year for us! The Mamas on Bedrest & Beyond blog has again been acknowledged. This time, we are being cited as one of the top 100 baby related blogs to follow in 2013 by couponaudit.com. This is a consumer information organization that gives consumers information about all manner of products and services so that they can make wise and informed choices (my personal mantra for all of you!)-and receive special gifts and offers, too!
While I am personally pleased as punch at all of the accolades, I am more thrilled by the fact that mamas on bed rest are getting much deserved recognition. If just 10% more people read this blog, that is 10% more people who will know and understand what it is like to have a high risk pregnancy. That is 10% more people who will know what to do and say to a friend, family member or other loved one who may be prescribed bed rest. That is 10% more people who will “see” us, removing us from the fringes of obscurity. And maybe, just maybe, our stories will stimulate physicians and researchers to target more research in our direction; to find more and more effective treatments for preterm labor, more and more effective treatments for cervical insufficiency, more and effective treatments for pre-eclampsia….That’s right, I’m on a mission to make bed rest a thing of the past (much like it is in most other medical specialties) and to put myself out of business!
So here’s to us, Mamas! And oh,
Happy Mother’s Day!!!!!!!!!!!
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