Mamas on Bedrest: Let’s Talk About Sex (after) Baby!

April 23rd, 2014

Greetings Mamas,

It’s Video Wednesday April 23, 2014. Today’s topic-SEX!!! The topic was raised by a mama in our community and it’s a topic we’ve not discussed much, so I decided to address it here.

The reality is that many women aren’t interested in sex post partum. The research estimates that as many as 80% of women experience a change in their sex drives (usually a drop) immediately following the birth of a baby. When you stop to think about it, it makes a lot of sense. Women have been pregnant, and have experienced extreme physical as well as emotional and hormonal changes. In our case, mamas have been on bed rest and been inactive. If a woman had a vaginal delivery, there was a lot of force against the perineum and possibly a tear or episiotomy with stitches so she may still be sore. If mama had a c-section her belly may be sore from that. Then she is breastfeeding, she’s tired, she’s adjusting….There are just so many issues that it’s hard for many women to even think about sex.

In this video, I offer some things to think about to “get the sexual wheels turning” and so sex will actually take place. While sex may not be on the top of a new mama’s priority list, it is very important for the couple to reconnect. So I hope this video is helpful. If it is, say so in the comments section below. If you have information to share, please do!

2 responses to “Mamas on Bedrest: Let’s Talk About Sex (after) Baby!”

  1. Princess says:

    Being so tired and worn out, it just doesn’t seem like you will ever get your self back let alone your sex life back. It is possible and it is important. 🙂 I have had 5 c sections and it is a painful process to and the last was super hard to recover from due to me being on bed rest for 6 wks. I always wonder how women could get pregnant so soon after the birth of a child…but each woman is different and feels different.

  2. Darline says:

    Yes Princess, it is a process. But I think you have hit on something critical. There is a lot going on and you (and your partner) have to give yourselves time to adjust and to reconnect. I love how you are pressing on and I truly believe that you and your partner will find your way back to intimacy. Good luck!!

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