Motherhood

Mamas on Bedrest: 30 Must-Read Blogs for Moms Who Are Returning to Work

March 8th, 2013

Mama working with babyToday’s blog is a guest post from Share a Nanny. Share a Nanny is a blog that shares all the pertinent information parents need if they are interested in sharing a nanny. The blogs range from “Reasons to Share a Nanny” to “Sharing Challenges”. If you are a parent preparing to go back to work after having a baby, you should most definitely check out some of the blogs and links below. Enjoy and Thanks to Share a Nanny for sharing this very timely information.

Whether you are a mom returning to work after a new baby or a long term absence from the work force, you will probably feel a mixture of excitement and anxiety. This is normal, as there are so many things you need to adjust to that didn’t exist before you had children. Now you have organizing childcare, missing valuable bonding time with your child and a whole host of other concerns running through your head.

Moms Returning to Work from Maternity Leave

Maternity leave, no matter how long the duration, will go by in the blink of an eye. Leaving your baby with a stranger and not being able to monitor her constantly will be hard. However, with the right planning and support, you can return to work safe in the knowledge that both you and your baby are in good hands.

Maintaining the Bond with Your Child

Returning to work does not mean you are abandoning your child. Although you will spend less time with her, there are ways that you can keep your bond strong. Bear in mind, this is important for the emotional wellbeing of both the parent and child.

Employer Support for Moms Returning to Work

Your employer has an important role to play in helping you integrate back into the work place. There are a number of ways in which your employer can support you. If you need retraining, reduced or flexible hours or your child has special needs, you should speak to either your employer or human resources department.  These five blogs will help arm you with the confidence and knowledge to approach your employer for help.

Career Advice for Moms Returning to Work

An obvious concern for moms returning to work, especially those who have been out of work long term, is how their career path is affected. Some moms may want to continue on their previous path, while others may want to move upwards or sideways into a different department, or take a reduction in hours. It’s often hard for moms to decide which way to go for fear that it won’t work out.  Another concern for moms returning to work is whether they will be able to adapt to all the changes in processes since they were last part of the workforce. It is for these reasons that moms returning to work will benefit from career advice.

Training and Education for Moms Returning to Work

In today’s fast paced industries, job descriptions and qualifications are constantly changing. As a mom returning to work, this can mean stepping into territory that, although once familiar, is now completely foreign to you. Your aptitude for the work may not have changed at all, however, you no longer have the required tools to perform in the role to your full potential. It is for this reason that further training and education are something to seriously consider before returning to work.

Managing Home and Work-Life

As a working mom, your life becomes somewhat of a balancing act between home and work-life. A full time job, whether it is in a traditional work place or at home looking after a child, is difficult enough to manage on its own. You need to learn how to manage both without causing detriment to your health. These five blogs provide advice on how to manage as a working mom, including tips from career-moms who have been in the same position.

Mamas on Bedrest: Presenting Sharon Munroe and Advanced Maternal Age!

September 28th, 2012

Mamas on Bedrest, are you 35 or older? When you started your prenatal visits, did your OB/midwife office slap a big  “AMA” or “Advanced Maternal Age” stamp or sticker on you chart?

They did on Sharon Munroe’s chart and that one stamp set an uncomfortable tone on her entire pregnancy. Sharon felt inundated with negativity and statistics about why her pregnancy was at risk because she was an older mama. But Sharon wasn’t daunted. She went on to have a completely normal healthy pregnancy and gave birth to a healthy baby boy. This experience prompted her to make changes for her next pregnancy 3 years later.

Sharon now shares her experience, resources and pearls of wisdom with older mamas as the owner and editor of  Advanced Maternal Age. Sharon’s mission is to get rid of the label “advanced maternal age” and for obstetrical professionals to view each woman’s pregnancy as a unique entity, while also supporting, informing and empowering older mamas to strive for the pregnancy of their dreams.

Mamas on Bedrest: I’m in Despair Over My Child’s Education

September 21st, 2012

Mamas, I come to you today with a very heavy heart. My darling little boy is in a class with a teacher that I don’t think gets him.

I know, I know, you’re probably thinking, “Here’s another mama thinking that her kid hung the moon and can do no wrong.”

I am well aware of the fact that my child has faults and that he can be, as I sometimes call him, “devil boy”. But I do know that my child is very intelligent and that he is at least at his 1st grade level if not above. This teacher is saying that he is below and I quite frankly don’t believe her.

My son has spent the last 4 1/2 years in Montessori school where he has received an excellent education. This is a child that has been reading since he was 4. This is a child that has been able to do some of his sister’s (3 1/2 years older) math homework last year. This is a kid that has a memory and an attention to detail that has floored many an adult coast to coast.

Yet, this teacher, who has known my son all of 4 weeks now, wants to “dumb him down”, start him at a lower level than he is competent to do and I’m not having it!

So we’re having a parent teacher conference on Monday. It’s gonna be tough because I already have a hearty distrust of her, but hubs is coming and he’s going to have to act as the buffer zone. I have also already spoken with the assistant principle, arranged for my son’s records to be sent from his Montessori School and arranged for him to be evaluated by a third party. Bases covered, but I have to admit, my hair is still aflame.

Mamas on Bedrest, making educational decisions for your child will be some of the most important work you’ll do on behalf of your child. I never anticipated having to do so much buffering and blocking when it came to school because I went to a really great public school as a kid. If kids needed extra help, they got it. Overall, the kids did really well and went on to excellent colleges and onto jobs and professions. I was spoiled and lulled into a false sense that this is how it is for everyone. Boy am I getting an education on education!

What I am learning is that education in the United States is not equal across the board, and that even within districts (as I am seeing in mine) where you live will play a hefty role in not only where your child goes to school, but also to what resources your child has access.  Unfortunately, we don’t have uniform requirements in the US.  Standards vary from state to state, city by city and even district by district. Quite frankly, education in this country can be a real crap shoot!

So what is a parent to do? Many parents in my area have taken the home schooling or “un-schooling” option. For the first time ever, I am considering this as a viable option to teach my son. I am not a teacher by trade, but I know my child and I know that I can sit with him and teach him the nuances of the word groups and vowel sounds so that he will grow to be a stronger reader. I know that we can work with a variety of tools and blocks so that I can make math and science fun. He already has a strong basis in geography from his Montessori school and whenever his dad travels, we can study the places that he goes. As a fitness professional and trainer, I can ensure that he has regular exercise-probably more than what he currently gets in school. But is it the right thing to do for him?

What about Montessori? Waldorf or other private schools? Truly, the only thing stopping me there is the tuition. Funds are tight right now in our house and adding a grand or so each month will only further strain things. But if it’s the best thing for my child, we’ll surely find the funds. I don’t have answers yet, but I do know that I won’t let my son “slip through the cracks.”

Mamas on Bedrest, start your research now. Check out the school district in your area and see how the children are faring. Is the school only addressing standardized testing? Is there room for creative thinking and expression? Can your child do advanced work if he/she so chooses? Are there sufficient resources of your child needs extra help? These are questions that many of us may have never had to consider, but may be face with as our children enter school. If you are opting out of public education for private, GET YOUR NAME ON THE WAITING LISTS NOW! My experience is that for the “really good (most desired) schools, you need to have your name on the waiting list the moment your Clear Blue Easy Pregnancy test comes back positive! Start your research now.

I’m a bit shell shocked right now, so I’m not going to address any particular method of education. But I am going to leave you with an interesting perspective on Public School Education from one of my favorite bloggers/speakers, Seth Godin. We’ll chat more on Monday. (Most definitely before that teacher conference!!)