Cervical Insufficiency

Mamas on Bedrest: I Just Read “One Recumbent Mommy”

March 24th, 2014

One Recumbent Mommy Book CoverGreetings Mamas!!

Rachel Blumenthal, a former Mama on Bedrest, and a member of our community wrote a book called, “One Recumbent Mommy: A Humorous Encounter with Bedrest”.  First I must apologize to Rachel because she sent me a copy of the book about a year ago and in the course of moving I misplaced it. She was gracious enough to send another and after several more months, I am finally reading it and sharing my thoughts with you all.

First, I applaud Rachel for being so committed. When I was pregnant with my daughter and facing all my medical challenges, I most certainly didn’t have the where-with-all to do a daily blog. Yes, I have encouraged you all to monitor your journeys, but this is most certainly a case of “Do as I say, not as I do”. I admit that I did keep meticulous baby books and still keep journals for my kiddos now that they are in “this realm”, but during pregnancy-not so much. Rachel wrote daily about her hospital bed rest stay in a blog; all the quirky little nuances of the staff, the hospital itself, her rooms and the various schedules and tests have become this book.

One Recumbent Mommy is easy to read.  I find Rachel’s conversational style easy to read and pages are not crowded with tiny print. In fact, I really liked the layout of the book as each daily entry’s header is in bold print. She kept the entries short for the most part, so if you wanted to take the entries day by day, you could also do that. Some days she wrote more than one entry, but like I said, each entry was pretty brief so it was easy to read and keep up with what was happening.

I think the one thing that I missed reading the book was what Rachel and perhaps even her husband really thought about her bed rest experience. The entries were all very neat and tidy, grammatically correct with excellent politically correct word choices. But I never really got a sense of how Rachel really felt about being in the hospital or her baby’s life being in danger due to her incompetent cervix. She mentions that it is not fun, she mentions that she misses her 2 year old son terribly. But, and this may be semantics/word choice, I could never really get a sense of Rachel. I don’t know if it’s because she initially started the blog as a way to keep friends and family members informed of her status and didn’t want to upset them, or she is a very private person, but I got very little emotional response when I read the book. The only times I noted emotion was when Rachel spoke of her son and his visits. You could feel her love for him and how much she missed him. Also, Rachel was in the hospital over the winter holidays and she did a (for her) lengthy entry on a woman who had come with Christmas gift bags and how it was a bit off-putting because she is Jewish and no one really bothered to ask. That entry was the first time I really felt like I was talking to and hearing from Rachel. As is customary of her temperament (that which I saw) her word choice was kind and respectful, yet in this post, I could feel that something important to her had been “stepped on” and although courteous, she provide a subversive “Hey, watch it!” Even when she fainted when she had her cerclage removed, her recount is more of a soundbite than, “Wow, that was kind of weird” or “Wow, I was so overwhelmed that I fainted.” She gives a cheeky description of how her eyes rolled back and she shuttered a bit, but I don’t know how she-or her husband really felt about the incident. When Maya, Rachel’s daughter is born, we again get the highlights. Yet I do sense more emotion-much like when she is  speaking about her son. Rachel is a proud mama indeed! I’d like to get to know her better and I missed her in this book.

One Recumbent Mommy is a “nice” account about one mama’s journey on bed rest. It is well written, an easy read and very accurate. For my taste, I would have liked to have had a bit more “Rachel” in it and more meat on the bones. In a book that I think she intends to help other mamas on bed rest, to say, “Google it” when she has a procedure is not very helpful. I would have liked to get to know her better, to hear (perhaps) from her husband and to get a sense of the impact that this experience had on her and her family. My perspective is that this is the “public view” and quite frankly, I would love to have “the inside scoop”-especially as I have gotten to know Rachel a bit in our Mamas on Bedrest & Beyond Community. If you are a mama on bed rest and looking for what you may encounter if you go on hospital bed rest, this is a good book to read. But if you are a mama on bed rest looking for ways to navigate the myriad of emotions-loss of control, fear, anxiety, uncertainty, and really hear from a mama who has been there, I don’t think this is the book for you.

You can order One Recumbent Mommy: A Humorous Encouner with Bedrest from Rachel Blumenthal directly or at Amazon.com.

Mamas on Bedrest: That’s a Wrap!

December 18th, 2013

Happy Holidays, Mamas on Bedrest!

It’s video Wednesday and it’s our last video and blog post for 2013. It has been my pleasure to serve you and look forward to lots more fun and sharing of information and tips in 2014. Most of all, I am looking forward to welcoming more healthy, term babies into our community! In 2014 I will continue to look for pertinent news, information, products and services to help you make wise health care choices for  you, your babies and your families. But for now, It’s family time. I’m off to Boston and New York and to meet my new GrandNiece!! So I wish all of you a wonderful holiday and see you in 2014 here and in our Facebook community!

Mamas on Bedrest: “Wherever I Am, I Will Love You Still”-A Book Review

October 25th, 2013

13473959522301251787406Bedrest is hard not only on mamas, but on entire families! No one is more upset and confused by bed rest than young children of Mamas on Bedrest. So I am thrilled to share with you, “Wherever I Am, I Will Love You Still”, by our own community member Rachel Blumenthal. Rachel spent roughly 20 weeks on hospital bed rest while pregnant with her daughter and had a young son at home. This book is a look at the bed rest experience through her son’s eyes.

I love having resources for explaining difficult things to our children. When I was pregnant with my son my daughter was 3 and I was prescribed “modified activity”. (I was actually prescribed bed rest, but since my husband was out of town most of the time and we had no family or other help, I bartered with my OB to rest as much as possible, but to be able to take my daughter back and forth to pre-school and to care for her when she came home.)  At first, she was excited when she learned that mommy had a baby in her tummy. But the excitement soon wore off as I got bigger and bigger and able to do less and less. One night when I simply couldn’t give her a bath and had to stand her in our master shower to bathe her she begrudgingly asked, “Mommy, when will you be done with this baby!?”

While Rachel’s son was far more tactful (at least in this story), it is sweet to see the things that were important to him and what made the bed rest journey bearable for him. This is a darling little book with sweet pictures and subtle details that really give parents a look at what a child thinks about this “bed rest thing”. While this book is written for children, I think every parent should take a good hard look at it (i.e. read and really think about it other than when reading it to your child!) and see what this experience really is like for a child. Rachel and her family really went the distance to make things flow for her son. I highly recommend utilizing some of her ideas for her son for your own children.

We can all attest to the reality that bed rest is a beast. It’s hard work and as much of an emotional toil as it is a physical struggle. I am really grateful for this book that comes from a mama who endured the struggle and now shares her wisdom “on the other side.” We need more voices sharing about the bed rest experience. Please support Rachel in the purchase of this book (available at Rocket Science Productions Launch Pad or at Amazon.com)

Rachel also wrote “One Recumbant Mommy” her personal journey through hospital bed rest. Look for this book review soon!