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Mamas on Bedrest: Vote!

October 11th, 2016
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Hello Mamas,

It’s not lost on any of us that this election season is one of the hottest messes in US election history! I’m not going to tell you who to vote for, or argue the virtues of either candidate. Who you decide to vote for is your personal business and let’s keep it that way. However, I am going to encourage you to vote. As an African American woman, I recognize the sacrifices-to the death for some-made so that I may “use my voice to make a choice!” The women who marched and protested in the 1920’s made it possible for women to vote. But for me and mine, this right was finally granted after many hotly contested, and a few bloody battles waged during the 1960’s. Knowing this history, knowing how many struggled and sacrificed, I can’t not vote! I know that many of you may be frustrated and disgusted. I know that much of what is going on is discouraging to say the least. But if we don’t vote, I fear dire consequences for our country. So please exercise your constitutional right and cast your opinions as to who and how this country should be governed.

Now I’m sure a lot of you will look at this post and think, “Now what in the h–l has voting got to do with being on bedrest?” While the presidential election has most certainly taken up much of the country’s attention, and who is elected president is surely of high importance, it most certainly isn’t the only election that matters to “We the People” and in many instances it isn’t the most important election for we Mamas on Bedrest. There is a lot of legislation pending in many states and local governments that will be approved/disapproved depending on who is elected in November-from the president on down. Very crucial legislation on paid family leave, employer sponsored benefits, health care, wage equality, childcare and other issues all crucial to us as mamas are all being considered by legislators in all 50 states and US protectorates. Implementation of these pending legislations will vary depending on the state, so if you don’t vote, if you don’t participate in this process, there is a strong likelihood that what you want to happen won’t. Perhaps you feel that your vote won’t matter. I get that. I live in Texas a very red state with conservative legislators diametrically opposed to what I believe. Yet, I will still be voting-even if it seems a useless proposition in some cases-because there are some instances in which legislation will narrowly be approved or rejected based on just a few votes. We can be deciding votes.

Many of you may be thinking, “I can’t vote, I’m on bedrest.” This is not true. You can vote by absentee ballot in all states, you simply have to request a mail-in ballot and return it by the date your state’s election board indicates.

I googled “absentee voting” and this link popped up with step by step information on how to obtain a ballot and submit it to your state’s elections office. If you don’t feel comfortable with this link, check out the Federal Voting Assistance Program’s absentee voting page. It too has very useful information about how one can vote if one is unable to physically get to the polls. Today, October 11th, is the last day to register to vote. Not sure if you are registered? Click here to find out.

As each of you is on bedrest growing your little one, give some thought to what type of world you want your little one to grow up in. Is what you are seeing on TV, on the internet, in the newspapers and magazines or what you are hearing around you what you want for your child? Is it what you want for yourself? The choices may not be as enticing as you may like, but you do still have a choice. The next chapter in our country’s history is about to be written. Make sure that you have your say in its content!


Mamas on Bedrest: Maternity vs. Medical-How this distinction affects your insurance policies.

May 14th, 2014

Hello Mamas!

Today’s post comes as a result of a question posed to me by Mama on Bedrest Natalie. She is now on hospital bed rest and is submitting claims to her supplemental insurance and she wants to know if they will cover her care. In my experience, once your pregnancy enters the “high risk” category, you actually receive more insurance coverage and pay out benefits from supplemental policies. This is because you are now being treated for a “medical condition” in addition to the pregnancy, and the medical condition is typically a covered benefit. Yes, I know it sounds crazy but this is what happens when you have a “health care system” that is actually a system that pays you for getting sick! Learn more in today’s vlog!

Mamas on Bedrest: Yes, Black Mamas do Breastfeed!

November 11th, 2013

I am an African American Mama who breastfed both her babies. Yet according to The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, African American Women lag far behind women of other ethnicities in breastfeeding. Why?

When I made the decision to breastfeed, both my mother and mother-in-law looked at me, noses squinched up, as if they had smelled something repugnant. Neither of them had breastfed their babies (3 a piece), and they could not fathom why I would want to do such a “primitive” thing. My mother-in-law even went so far as to say, “You’re gonna have saggy boobs”. That fell on deaf ears because I had my kids so much later in life my breasts had already begun to head south! I explained to them both the benefits of breastfeeding; fewer occurences of ear infections, reduction in the incidences of asthma and the mother baby bond. Both became supportive of my breastfeeding and I was able to breastfeed each of my children for just under a year.

The Nation’s Health recently looked at the disparities in breastfeeding and has been asking, “Why is it that African American Women breastfeed at much lower rates than other women and what can be done to improve their breastfeeding rates and success.” 

The biggest factor is support. While nationally many hospitals have increased their support and are advocating for exclusive breastfeeding (motivated in large part to earn the designation “Baby Friendly”), and are making lactation consultants widely available and ceasing to distribute formula care packages provided by formula companies, public health experts note that the support of a woman’s intimate family and friends plays a far more significant role in whether or not a woman decides to breastfeed and whether or not she succeeds. A woman is highly influenced by those around her.The responses of my mother and mother-in-law could have completely sabotaged my breastfeeding efforts. Strong, influential women like a mother or mother-in-law can make or break breastfeeding efforts. A supportive partner is also crucial to breastfeeding success. Women who have the support of their partners are also more likely to breastfeed and to have breastfeeding success. In communities in which breastfeeding is the norm, women are more likely to initiate breastfeeding and to be more successful at breastfeeding. Community groups and organization where mamas can gather and gain support also have an important role in breastfeeding success.

Education is extremely important. Many people are unaware of the significant health and emotional benefits of breastfeeding to both mother and baby. When I explained these important benefits (i.e. fewer ear infections, reduction in allergies and asthma, reduction in the incidence of reflux, bonding between mother and baby, and the financial savings) to my mother and mother-in-law, both quickly became supporters. Among teens, breasts are seen only as objects of sexual pleasure (as depicted in music videos and other media) and many young women report never having seen a woman breastfeed a baby and are unaware that the God given intentional use for breasts is to feed the young. We have to return to such basics.

We also have to consider the financial benefits and convenience of breastfeeding. Formula is not cheap and if a baby has any sort of allergy, specialty formulas are even more expensive than standard formulations. Additionally, with breastfeeding, there is no need to bring additional supplies in the diaper bag, no need to worry about temperature or if the formula is mixed in the right proportions to water. Breastmilk is always the proper temperature, the proper composition of water to nutrients and ready for immediate consumption! This is a huge consideration as we enter into Health Care Reform and the initiation of the Affordable Care Act. If we need to consider cost containment, Breastfeeding versus formula feeding must be targeted.

Finally, African American Women need to see other African American Women breastfeeding. While the CDC and other advocacy agencies have begun to show images of African American mothers nursing their infants, most informational material still shows white mamas and babies. Subconsciously, the message is “black mamas don’t breastfeed”. It may seem trivial, but we are visual creatures. When African American mamas are aware that other African American mamas breastfeed and can actually see other African American mamas breastfeed, they are more likely to breastfeed themselves.

While overall rates of breastfeeding among African American women has increased, these rates still lag far behind women of other races and ethnicities. With the known health advantages of breastfeeding for both mamas and babies, including the potential to lower infant illness and death in African American babies (who have the highest rates amongst infants of all ethnicities) Breastfeeding support and education must be made a priority for all mamas, but for African American mamas in particular.


My son and I circa 2006. Note the chubby breastfed cheeks!



My daughter in 2002 at approximately 4 months. Though born at 5 lbs 3oz, note the chubby breastfed cheeks!