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Mamas on Bedrest: Halloween Spooktacular!!

October 27th, 2014

Good Morning Mamas!

Today I’m encouraging you, Mamas on Bedrest, to get into the holiday spirit! Mamas let your creativity flow-Let your “freak” fly!  Celebrate Halloween in a new and creative way on bed rest!

Mamas, I know this isn’t what you wanted. No one actually WANTS bed rest. But it doesn’t mean that you can’t enjoy life and it’s simple pleasures. To that end, we’re having a Halloween Spooktacular! Mamas, share how you are creatively enjoying and participating in Halloween this year. Are you decorating your surroundings? Semd us a photo! Did you paint your belly? Dress up? Bake something amazing (or have one of your recipes baked for you!!), write a poem or create a piece of artwork? Share your creation with our community and inspire other mamas! Submit your creations to info@mamasonbedrest.com. The submissions will be posted next week, November 3rd,  and as a community, we’ll choose a winner who will receive a $25 Amazon.com gift card. The winner will be announced on November 10th. Happy Halloween Mamas!!

Mamas on Bedrest: Bittersweet Remembrance

November 1st, 2013

It’s been 9 years since I lost my 3rd pregnancy. I had considered not posting today, feeling a bit melancholy, morose.

“Mamas don’t want to hear that,” I said to myself. 

I’m the moderator of Mamas on Bedrest & Beyond. I’m here to be a source of comfort, of inspiration. I’m supposed to lift these ladies up! The last thing that mamas need to hear/see when they come here is a story of loss. Or is it….?

I LOVE writing these blogs. I LOVE learning about and presenting to all of you the various products, services and information that comes across my computer desk. I LOVE interacting with all of you -hearing your stories and most especially getting to see the photos of your beautiful babies! I started this website and this business with the specific intention of making high risk pregnancies and bed rest easier for those coming behind me. I didn’t want another woman to feel the sadness, loneliness and isolation that I felt as I struggled to bear my children. I didn’t want another woman to feel the fear and feeling of aloneness that I felt while I was hemorrhaging with my daughter and watching to see if my OB would be able to “make me okay.” And I wanted to provide a listening and understanding ear (?eye) for those women with the “unspeakable” thoughts and fears-the ones that those who have not walked our path feel uneasy hearing, and quickly try to “poo poo” away with,

“God has a plan” and “Don’t worry, it will all work out alright”.

I’m sorry folks, when I am in the midst of the storm, those words are as soothing as dumping a bucket of water over my already drenched head! While I do believe in God and there being a Divine plan to this crazy thing called life, sometimes life is just hard and when you are going through, you really don’t care about God or the Divine plan! It is in those moments that my mother’s admonisments to me as a child ring so very true,

“If you’ve nothing good to say, say nothing.”

Silence really can be golden.

Within our midst we have mamas that have lost perhaps one or many pregnancies. We have mamas that have had to utilize in vitro fertilization or other technologies to become pregnant. We have mnamas who had or currently have wee ones whose lives are hanging in the balance. We have it all and I am proud to say that mamas at any and all stages are welcome! Please don’t “pretty up” your stories or your feelings. If you are sad, you are perfectly welcome to share those feelings in their real, raw form. If you have suffered loss, please let us, let me, know so that we can come along beside you and share your sorrow. For some, this may be too much intimacy, too much transparency. Letting others see you at your most vulnerable may be something you are just not ready to do. That’s fine. But do know that if you do need to share, you are welcome to do so.

I’m going to sign off now and do a little something special to acknowledge my wee one. It’s All Saints Day and while I do believe the spirit of my wee one has long crossed over, I am going to spend a bit of time giving thanks to and for those that have been a part of my life but are now gone.

 

 

Mamas on Bedrest: There are no dumb questions!

September 25th, 2013

Hello Mamas,

I got a message from a mama new to our community asking about surviving bed rest with a cerclage. She was feeling “sheepish” and didn’t want to post to the group. Now one might surmise that this mama is shy. This may well be true. But most times when mamas send me direct messages, they do so because they fear that their questions are too trivial or dumb. Let me just clear the air here.

THERE ARE NO DUMB QUESTIONS!!!!!

Mamas, while there are a few of you who are “repeaters” on bed rest, by and large the vast majority of mamas in our community are first time Mamas on Bedrest. And think about it, when else in your life are you going along, minding your own business and doing your thing, when in the blink of an eye (or actually at the sweep of an ultrasound wand or at the touch of your OB’s hand) you find  yourself suddenly confined to bed? Okay, this could happen if you were in a major car accident or perhaps had a heart attack. But in our community of young, healthy women,  few if any of us have ever been so completely knocked out of our lives as we are on bed rest. And for most of us, there is no warning. We go in for what we think is a routine prenatal visit, then boom, bed rest. Now some mamas enter bed rest emergently; i.e. due to preterm labor, elevated blood pressure or other more obvious symptoms. But again, the vast majority of women come to bed rest in total shock and completely blindsided.

Now, given that most mamas have never experienced bed rest, is it any surprise that we find ourselves at a loss for what to do? How to feel? How to manage? This is the beauty of Mamas on Bedrest & Beyond! I specifically designed this community to be interactive because the best way to learn is from someone right there in the trenches with you! The mamas in our community are excellent resources in themselves! At all points along the gestation spectrum, we have very new mamas, mamas who are iminently going to deliver and mamas now holding their bundles of joy. Mamas have had preterm labor, placenta previa, pre-eclampsia, and yes, LOTS of cervical insufficiency and cerclages. And the beautiful thing is that when a mama is in need, another mama very often has the answer to her question!

Mamas, I love interacting with you and answering your questions. But I want to reiterate the fact that we are all on pretty equal footing here. Yes, I have a physician assistant background and a public health concentration that makes my answers (sometimes) a bit more complete. But many of the mamas here have good, practical advice-advice that your doctors really don’t know and advice that can really make a difference in how you go through your bed rest experience. No one here would ever say a question is “dumb”. Very likely, we’ve all had the same question! And if history has any bearing, as soon as you ask your question, 3 or 4 mamas will respond. It’s just how we roll.

So mamas, it’s okay to be shy and if you still don’t want to publicly post your questions, that’s fine. I will always answer them. So feel free to send them via e-mail to info@mamasonbedrest.com or on the private message tab on our Facebook Page. Questions that I think will be beneficial to the entire community I’ll repost anonymously and answer or answer in one of the video blogs.